37. This Modern Love

I know that this is Will Darbyshire’s upcoming book title. But, anyway, let’s talk about modern love.

The old-fashioned love I thought is a thing where someone confess their love to the one they love shyly with an old-fashioned way, like wrote a letter, recited a poem in front of their lover, took them to a fancy dinner, et cetera.

The thing I want to talk about today is modern love.

Love is different if we asked our parents. They might say, “Oh, me and your mum met at the local library, where she used to read the same book every single day, blah blah—”

Nowadays, love is different.

Love these day involving dates, prom night, dating apps, FaceTime and Skyping, long-distance relationship, texting each other until they fall asleep with their phones. But, love is love after all.

It’s one of those things where someone can say “I love you” by just being like “text me when you get home safe.” Anything like that, “are you okay” when you’re having a stressful day, or buying someone a coffee in the morning when you know they’re going to want one. Or when someone pick you up from your workplace and take you out on a date.

These days, love is about sitting in silence and enjoying every second of it simply because your partner is sharing it with you. Love is about reading another person’s mind and finishing his or her sentences—because you know that person that well.

People now want to highlight how lame their relationship is and how lame they are when they’re together but how adorable it is at the same time.

People these day hate cheesiness, and I’m not really a huge fan of classic romance necessarily, so the idea of making new cliches was trying to desperately to avoid candlelit dinners and kind of make their own little things that are special to them.

Modern love is about putting another person before yourself, because when that person is happy, you’re happy. Love is about staying in on the weekend, ordering Chinese food, and putting on a new documentary because you wouldn’t want to be with anyone else.

These days, love knows no gender, race, shape, or size. Love is love.

Love can be communicated in just a look or a gesture or whatever, and I often feel like those are the kind of things that hit home a lot harder than someone looking at your and being like “I love you.” Love is not something that you express when you say “I love you” necessarily, it’s something that you express in a million little gestures throughout every single day.

As Troye said in his song for his boyfriend (the one and only, Connor Franta *cough*), “You don’t have to say I love you to say I love you.”

That’s what modern love is to me. It’s  simpler than the old-fashioned one, but it’s more complicated when you’re in love.

Let me know in the comments below what do you think about modern love, I want to know your opinion about it!

Byee! 😉